Make new friends but keep the old

September 22nd, 2011

When I began my time at JCU as a freshman, I never considered myself the type of girl to join a
sorority. However, at this time I still had many friends from high school.

After these high school friends and I mostly went our separate ways, I found myself wanting to build more friendships with people  who share my same interests. Since then I have made some great friendships, but one night at the Inn Between one of my friends convinced me to join a sorority.

I was amazed that she could convince me of such a thing, being as stubborn as I am. This just means that we have a solid friendship— she knew me better than I knew myself at that time. She knew that this could be a good idea for me, even when I didn’t know it. Now, as a junior I finally decided to try out sorority life and see if I think it would be a good fit for me.

This past weekend, I participated in the Formal Recruitment process to join a sorority at JCU. Many of the girls involved were freshmen, so as a junior, I felt a bit out of place at times.

Since I have been at JCU for a few years, I already had friends in each sorority. This was both an advantage and a disadvantage. I felt more comfortable when speaking with girls from each chapter, but when it came to having to choose which one I wanted to be a part of, I knew that I would probably be hurting some feelings.

Through the entire process, I was afraid that choosing one sorority over another would damage some friendships. Ultimately I had to choose the sorority in which I felt most comfortable— where I felt I would fit in the best. Though that wasn’t necessarily the one that my best friends were in, I hope those friendships remain strong.

Just because I didn’t think the rest of the sororities were the right fit for me, doesn’t mean that those friendships aren’t one of the best parts of my life—and I hope those girls realize that. I still love them like sisters, even if they aren’t necessarily my sorority sisters.

I consider these girls very close to my heart and I value their friendship. I am thankful everyday that I have them in my life, and they make my time here at JCU much more enjoyable and much more memorable.

I want to apologize if I caused any hurt feelings toward any of my friends. I assure you all, that was not my intention. I just had to make the decision that was best for me, and I wasn’t going to make such a large commitment if I wasn’t positive it was right for me.

I went through Formal Recruitment with an open mind, and as it turns out, I am certainly happy I did. When I first met the girls of Gamma Phi Beta, they were extrememely welcoming. They were excited that I was there to meet them and made me feel like they’d be glad to have me as a sister. This was a great feeling considering I only knew one or two girls from Gamma Phi Beta before Recruitment Weekend.

It was nice to feel wanted and accepted, and I appreciate the fact that they made me feel that way.

When I met the girls of Gamma Phi Beta, I immediately felt comfortable with them. They were easy to talk to. I was able to picture myself as a part of their group.

Being an only child, I’ve never known what it’s like to have sisters. Now I have over 50 of them.

I am excited to be a part of this sisterhood and create close bonds with new friends, whom I will hopefully have beyond my years at JCU.