The art of being a player (and lying while you’re at it)

February 25th, 2010

They say that patience is a virtue.  Amongst other important traits to grasp is monogamy, or at least the concept of being an honest person.

I’m going to start off by saying that I’m not targeting any one gender specifically—it’s understandable that players and liars come from both the male and female categories.

According to, “a player is a male who is skilled at manipulating (‘playing’) others, especially seducing women by pretending to care about them, when in reality they are only interested in engaging [in other, more physical activities].” 

What those who are narrow-minded can’t comprehend is that a player will always be discovered and the truth will always surface for the liar.

It’s a matter of time, as well as a matter of talk and gossip. 

To acquire multiple significant others, lie to each and every one of them in the process, and believe that you’re going to get away with it is complete stupidity on behalf of the player him/herself.  

It didn’t work for John Tucker in the film “John Tucker Must Die,” and if one needs a more real-world example, it didn’t work for Tiger Woods, Eliot Spitzer, Sienna Miller or John Edwards. The art of playing has been such a desired game to master that the iPhone has even created an app to catch the scumbags. Called “iTrust,” the app has the ability to catch iPhone meddlers red-fingered.  

That may have spared Tiger for at least another two or three months before getting caught by Elin.

To add to the fact that the art of being a player is prominent in society, there’s even a Web site that encourages it. is a dating service site for people who want to cheat on their partners.  

Its slogan alone, “Life is short, have an affair,“ is enough to make players look like your average person. 

Even more hilarious and obvious is when the players try to get away with their actions via materialistic buy-offs. We’ll see a trophy wife out with a newer, bigger diamond or a Mercedes for no apparent reason, or maybe a guy with a new, unnecessary set of golf clubs.

Now, I am a Theta, and according to the oh-so-knowledgable Bob Seeholzer, that makes me a plastic, acquisitive gold digger who’d be pleased with the tangible gift that says “I apologize for lying.” False.      

These gifters believe that worldly gifts erase the fact that what they were doing ran along the lines of immoral and deceitful.

 To take the hilarity a step further, they’ll promise you that whatever happened won’t happen again—because they are trying to be a better person because of you. 

“You” have changed them, and they’ll do anything and everything to turn over a new leaf for you.

The problem (and perhaps the understandable solution) is, once a player, always a player. 

Once a liar, always a liar. 

It’s in their nature. I don’t really think people can change. At the end of the day, they are who they are, and it’s probably who they’ll always be.