Win a girl over and keep her around

October 29th, 2009

There are thousands of adorable ways for a guy to convince a girl to fall for him.

But, for each one of those instances, there’s also a way to make sure that chick never speaks to you again. So, for the fellas, here are a few things you should consider when you start dating someone new.

Do not, under any circumstances, tell a girl that you think her friend is hot. Regardless of the situation (or your blood alcohol content), this will never produce positive results.

If you’re just starting to date a girl, don’t call her more than once a day; you’ll scare her away. I can say with certainty that the majority of the girls you’ll find will have caller ID and they’ll know how to check a voicemail. Unless you’re in a life-threatening situation, one call is enough.

You are in college; chances are you have a lot going on between classes, athletics, volunteer work, creeping on Facebook, reading the latest issue of The Carroll News cover to cover and whatever else you deem a priority.

Thus, giving the girl you are head over heels for a detailed run down of what you plan to do each day is not only annoying, but also a little creepy. We don’t care that you plan to check your mail today or eat a sandwich at exactly 1:30 p.m. We have more important things to worry about.

Say you pay for dinner every time the two of you go out, and just to be nice, your girlfriend offers to pay one night. Do not respond by saying, “Great! Let’s order an appetizer.” If you do, it will undoubtedly be the last time she offers, possibly even the last time you see her.

If you’ve just started dating a girl and you’re hanging out at your place, it’s probably not a good idea to randomly say, “Get into my bed, I want to see what you look like when you sleep.” That’s a bit creepy.

Finally, know when to move on. When a girl tells you to leave her alone, it is not a suggestion. Do not call, e-mail, text or send flowers. Just find someone else.

There are plenty of options out there. Why would you pursue someone that is clearly no longer  interested?

Now that I’ve told you what not to do, here are a couple things that will most likely work well on a majority of women.

Show up with flowers. They don’t have to be fancy or expensive, even if it’s a single bloom. Believe it or not, it really is the thought that counts.

Be creative. Dinner and a movie is always good, but sometimes it’s the random, seemingly spontaneous adventures that make for the best dates.

I hope this advice helps some of you. And, if the things that I’ve told you seem a bit ridiculous, you’re right. These situations are a bit ridiculous, but sadly these are all real experiences that either myself or one of my fellow female CNer’s have encountered.